Creative Writing, Uncategorized

3 Reasons Why Teenagers are Afraid to Voice Out their Opinion

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“Everyone has the right to express their opinion…” 

With all the different issues our world is currently facing, it is inevitable that everyone has their own opinion. But only few has the courage to express it; Or maybe some are just afraid to voice them out. Like us, teenagers.

I conducted a simple interview with my fellow teenagers and asked them possible reasons why some of us are afraid to voice out our opinions. And here’s what we/ they say:

1. “We are afraid of criticisms.”

We all know that expression of opinion comes with criticism. It is inevitable that some teenagers are afraid of these because they tend to have vulnerable hearts. Or maybe some of us are afraid of judgment. I, myself, have tried to voice out my opinion and had regrets after doing it. After I confidently posted my thought about a certain issue, I received comments and I started to feel bashful. We all understand that some criticisms may be constructive or destructive, but regardless of how it is delivered, we can still be afraid because we’re just starting to learn how to accept it.

But let me tell you that criticisms are actually good. Some of them helps us to grow and learn something. As the saying goes, “If you’re not open to criticism, then you’re not open to truly growing as a person.” 

2. “We are told to shut up.”

Truth be told, this is one of the reasons why.

Some adults view teenagers’ opinions worthless. We do understand that we are too young to think that we could actually change the world. But we know all too well that being young doesn’t restrict us to have an opinion about a certain issue. We also have the right to be heard and our opinions to be valued.

Some teenagers don’t share their thoughts because of the fear of rejection. We are told at school to never be afraid of voicing out our opinions, but we are never warned that we could be bashed by doing so. They degrade us, teenagers, thinking that we were just born yesterday, and oblivious to the “real world.” We’re belittled and told to grow up but stops us from speaking our thoughts, which is how we could grow.

To (some) adults,

We are teenagers, not “just teenagers”. Do you understand? Please don’t limit us from voicing out our opinions. Wasn’t there a time when you were like us? When you were only like us, wanting a voice too? Hoping we could freely suggest about a certain issue?

I know some of us are being careless, irresponsible, and impolite about making opinions. And I know that some adults are reading this thinking that not all are dismissive of teens. I’m not saying these just because i’m also a teenager. There are some adults who support teens, I understand, however, it goes the same for us. You cannot put all flowers on the same pot. Meaning, we are different from each other. Not all teenagers are “careless”, “irresponsible”, and “worthless.” Some of us may be insane but that doesn’t mean that teenagers that actually care like us don’t exist. We do care about these issues, especially we are the next ones to inherit the responsibilities of the future. So please, let us care.

3. “We are not confident enough.”

“All reluctance is a lack of confidence.”

Some teenagers are reluctant to speak out their opinions because they are not confident enough of what they’re saying. They are afraid to commit mistakes about what they’re stating. They aren’t very sure of their opinion. In addition, some may change their opinion after reading or knowing other’s. Because they lack confidence, they are easily confused about which side they should be. So they remain silent, instead of speaking a certain opinion then changing it afterwards.

I know that we all have our own reasons why we choose to stay silent about our opinion. But whatever it is, we should realize that everyone’s opinion matters. But always remember, that it is best to deliver them politely and start to learn accepting criticisms. Be confident and stand for what you believe and what you think is right.

We are teenagers, and we are born to stand out. But we could only stand out, if we start to voice out our thoughts and be part of something.

You have a voice, let it speak and be heard.

Don’t just zip your mouth.

Believe in yourself, and learn to speak, little by little until you can. Let’s do this.

 

(Thank you so much to all my fellows who’ve been part of my simple interview. You were such a great help!) 

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Poems

Possibilities Behind Fears

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I was scanning my old journal and found this poem, not knowing how or why I wrote it. 

 

“Not this time, Not anymore.

Please don’t repeat what has happened before.

Don’t bring back the anxiety and confusion,

While you love me without giving resolution.

 

But if you truly love me, I’d give you a chance

To tell me something with just one glance.

Be brave and stop hiding what you feel,

Shout my name to the world and tell me your love is real.

 

But if ever, you can’t do that for me,

Please just leave and stop making me see

How you could love me but can’t stand for us;

How your weakness has taken us away from what we could have.”

-jam.c

 

Creative Writing, Uncategorized

Choose Passion over Money

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Some times in our lives, we would have to face some challenging questions to answer and decide, for ourselves. Just like,

Passion or Money?

We all know that choosing our career is a very serious and important matter to decide. It’s like planning of how your future would become. Inevitably, we may encounter two different paths we can choose from, one’s about money, and the other one’s about passion. But between these two, what is the best path we should take?

“How do you see yourself 10 years from now?” 

While others are imagining themselves wearing a white gown, being a doctor; carrying a suitcase, being a lawyer; writing on a blackboard, being a teacher; or loading a gun, being a policeman; I am here, visualizing myself holding a pen, being a writer. While others have chosen a career where they can make a good living, I have chosen my passion, maybe i’m not as rich as how I am expected to be, but I am full of learning because I have chosen to do what I love to.

Choosing between passion and money, is like choosing between your heart and mind. And they would always say, “Follow your heart, and so Follow your passion.” 

Following your passion is a brave thing to do. It is a sacrifice and a risk you would take about your future. You may regret it, and fail, but also, you may succeed and be happy. But for me, this is the best thing to do.

We love to do something because we are good at this thing, and have skills to do it. Yes, skills. Skills are given to us by God, as a clue about our purpose in life. Surely, we are not made to earn money because we can’t take them with us in heaven. We are made to live our purpose and achieve our dreams. “If you can’t figure out your purpose, figure out your passion. For your passion will lead you right into your purpose,” Bishop TD. Jakes said. We are created for one purpose to fulfill, so follow your passion, and live your that purpose.

The good thing about working your passion is that you wouldn’t feel like working at all. You would enjoy every tasks, and you wouldn’t feel stressed and tired like how other people usually feel about their jobs. Choosing what you love to do and working for it will bring you happiness and courage in your job, which success would surely requires to come for you. Like what Arthur Buddhold once said, “Follow your passion, and success will follow you.”

People should start to realize that life isn’t just about making money, building a mansion, and everyday shopping. It is mostly about achieving your dreams and being happy. It is best to follow our passion because it is a barely controllable emotion we cannot ignore. Everyone, stay true to yourself and figure out what you love to do. Always remember that money shouldn’t be our main goal, instead, we should pursue our dreams and do the best that we can to prove other people that passion never fails. Don’t let money limit your dreams. Be brave and take the courage. I believe that the only courage that one person truly needs is the courage to follow her/his dreams.